The People Already in Your Corner Are One Call Away

Ben BeeriIn life, we have all these amazing people in our life and we build all these relationships and we put in this time to build these relationships. And we're constantly searching for people in our lives that we don't have because we act like we don't have people. The truth is is you've always got people. You've always got the people that you've built your life with, the people that you've built relationships with. But for one reason or another, you lose touch and it's okay to lose touch. It's okay to not be in constant contact with somebody and it's also okay to reach out and someone's got to do it like it could be you And the thing I've been thinking with that lately is who are the people in my life that I care about, that if I think about them, I just pick up the phone, give them a call, say what's up, and ultimately those are the people in your life where you've already built the equity with.

And if they're still aligned, and they're still walking a life path that aligns with the values that you've built in your life, how can you continue to build on that relationship? How can that relationship continue to compound over time? Because there really is no greater feeling than knowing you've got somebody in your corner. And for somebody to know that they've got you in their corner, that's meaningful. I can't stress enough how many times in my life, I've been at a place where it's like I'm sitting there thinking about somebody haven't talked to them in a while, genuinely wondering how they're doing.

And there's a really easy way to find out. You can send him a text, give him a call, reconnect with a person that you're already connected with, a person that you've already built the equity of a relationship with. It's always great to catch up and learn where somebody is in life, learn what they're passionate about, learn their most recent life events, see where they're heading in life, see what's interesting to them nowadays, Tell them a little bit about what's going on with you. And sitting there and thinking about that over the last few days, I've had the opportunity to connect with some people that have been near and dear in my life over the last decade plus.

Some relationships as long as a decade plus. Some relationships that have even been a few months long and haven't seen the person in a few months, and I feel like we place more value on the people in our lives that we haven't met yet than the people in our lives that we've already built relationship equity with. And The relationship equity that you've built with somebody doesn't go away. You just have to keep building and If you completely forget about somebody or you don't talk to them for a while That person's not lost It just means life has happened and you've gone your direction, they've gone in their direction, and you guys aren't crossing paths.

Your paths don't intersect anymore and that's okay. There's nothing wrong with that, But there's also nothing wrong with getting in contact with somebody and seeing how they're doing. Being in a place where you do get to reconnect with somebody that you care about, somebody that you really genuinely are thinking about or wanting to know how they're doing, it's uplifting. And it puts you in a place where you realize it's like, hey, this person's been in my corner all along. And they want to see me win, they want to see me build.

Why didn't I call them sooner? And it really leads me to think it's like how many times in our lives have we wanted to express something and we just haven't. And that could be as simple as, hey, you're walking down the street and you think somebody's wearing a cool shirt, and you want to tell them like, dude, your shirt is badass. I like your shirt. And you don't say a word, but really you telling that person that you like their shirt on that day could make their day. And sitting there and thinking about something and not expressing it is a form of inaction that can be very costly to you.

Like, you can be in a place where you are thinking about wanting to express something and you don't. And doing that will basically put you in a place where now you're questioning what the reality is because you are creating a reality in your head. You're creating an illusion in your head that doesn't actually exist, but there's a reality, and you can check on that reality anytime, and that reality comes from expressing what's on your mind. It comes from making the call, it comes from sending the text message, comes from telling the person you like their shirt, Telling the person you're grateful for them, you're grateful for how they've been in your path in life, how you guys came together, your guys' friendship, your business relationship, whatever memories you guys have together in the past, and you are genuinely grateful for that.

And being able to share that with someone can make their day as well. And I feel that if more of us decided that, hey, let's pick up the phone, Let's connect with the people that we already love in our lives. Connect with the people that we've already built equity within our lives. We wouldn't have this need to fill an unnecessary void of, hey, I'm looking for somebody to fill this in my life that you haven't met yet. Because you've likely already met a lot of people that are meaningful to you, and sometimes they're just one phone call away from you just being able to say what's up and a simple what's up, how are you doing?

It goes a long way in our life, and it matters. I feel like a lot of us don't pick up the phone, don't reach out to somebody is because we feel like if they would have wanted to hear from us, they would have reached out to us. And that becomes a really dangerous trap because somebody's got to be proactive. Like, somebody's got to take action in life. The proactive person may as well be you. Like, you can sit there, you can think about whatever you've got going on in your life. We all do. We all have hopes and dreams and aspirations and jobs and friends and many different directions that life pulls us in.

And so does the other person. But the most meaningful thing is what connects us as people, and everybody's connection is different, and it's important to acknowledge the connection that you have with one person is going to be different than the connection that you have with another person, and maybe speaking with somebody or connecting with somebody really feeds a part of you that there isn't anybody else in your life that has fed for you. So I think that it's really important to not make any assumptions as to where the other person may stand as far as wanting to speak to you, or texting you, or calling you because people are busy.

Your life isn't always going to intersect with somebody. There could be times in your life where you see somebody every day. They don't talk for ten years. But really, that person was thinking about you in year four, five, six, seven, forgot about you for the next three, and then year ten decided to give you a call and just say, Hey, I'm thinking about you. How are you? And I feel like that matters. Who's somebody in your life that crosses your mind from time to time? Maybe you made some real memories with this person.

Maybe it wasn't that serious, but you always enjoyed speaking with them, or their company, or seeing them. You guys always had good interactions. Who's that person for you that just crossed your mind? You could pick up your phone, and maybe send a text message to them, and ask them what's up. Hey, haven't talked to you in a while. How are you? Or even take it a step further, and pick up the phone, and give them a call, and catch up for a bit. Because those are the people in your life that matter.